This is a movie I would have found hilarious 2 years ago. Honestly even after all I've been through the past year and a half I still found it funny. Which I guess is a tribute to how far I've come. I think 6-9 months ago I would have burst into tears and completely lost my shit over this. Today though I could appreciate the fact that the movie IS generating awareness of infertility and some of the struggles Tina was going through in the beginning of the movie before the surrogate entered the picture were pretty accurate. However the one part that did bother me was her miraculous pregnancy. This is only fueling the fire for those (uneducated) people out there who say all of those terrible things that make us want to poke our eyes out (just relax, take a vacation, maybe you should adopt then you'll get pregnant!). Because in real life it just doesn't work that way. Okay, once in a great while maybe. And I'm all about the power of prayer and I do believe that God works miracles. I know He does. But with so many of us struggling to conceive we can't ALL be the one who miraculously gets pregnant. Our miracles come in the forms of IUI, IVF, donor eggs and embryos, surrogates, and adoption matches. There is no cure to infertility. Nothing we can do that immediately equals our bodies healing themselves and poof - baby on board. I know that some of us have been fighting this battle for YEARS. And it's through blood, sweat, tears, pain, and heartache that we build our families. And in a funny way even though I couldn't be closer to having a baby of my own I'm proud of the battles scars. One day (I have to believe there WILL be a one day) I'll be a better parent. One day I will teach my child about the extremes we went through to get him or her. One day I will raise a person who won't be the one to ever make those comments that make us want to claw our eyes out. I can't wait until that day.
Tuesday, January 13, 2015
Last night as I was flipping through the channels (and avoiding The Bachelor because D and I watch it together and he had a school board meeting) I stumbled upon the movie Baby Mama. You know this one - Tiny Fey tries to have a baby on her own only to find out she has a T shaped uterus so she opts to go the surrogacy route. Amy Poehler becomes her surrogate which leads into a funny story line about a not so bright woman who is in it for the money and doesn't understand that you have to wait 2 weeks to test. She tests immediately and it's negative. She then sets out to pull a fast one on Tina Fey pretending she's pregnant so she can get the cash. But then halfway through she finds out she really is pregnant and it might be Tina's or it may be her common law husband's. Long story short the baby ends up NOT being Tina Fey's but she miraculous becomes pregnant on her own even though her RE gave her a 1 in a million odds.